It’s been 24 years now, 24 years without a girlfriend. Each movie he watches, like the Great Gatsby, religiously reminds him. As he listened to 2 face's Kiss of Life, the stark reality stands before him. Every time he goes out at night on campus, passing from Motion ground through Moremi to Awolowo Hall (#teamOAU), the thought haunts him. It’s his final year in school, and 'time dey go o brother', his friends tell him. He tells them in reply, 'I still have a few months to go on campus, I still have NYSC, so why the rush?' Whenever he meets a new girl, on social media or in the department, he wondering ‘could she be the one I put the ring into her finger and declare my eternal love to, the very girl I have been waiting for all these years?’
Tired of being in the friend zone, he left such relationships, weary of waiting and hoping she looks his way and considers him for a boyfriend...as her last hope. "What nonsense, I am more than the worth of ten thousand guys she dates!", as he thinks to himself every time he feels like regretting his leaving. Lucy had been the girl he hung out with as a ‘friend’ after asking her out that night three years ago, but last semester in school she told him she was in love with another. Sometimes these female folk can be wicked!
Just two nights ago, his friend Emma came displaying his new girlfriend like a trophy. "Wetin sef, na only you waka come?” he thought to himself as Emma excitedly gave him his own version of the Romeo and Juliet story.
He takes comfort in one thing, which is that as far as marriage is concerned, he isn't ready for it, so why should he need a relationship? He believes he is not for games, that he is a very straight forward person like Frank Donga, The Interview prodigy. He doesn't need a relationship to keep himself busy. He has a vision, a dream and a career to live, build and to actualize. No time for dillydallying. So as Uncle Leke Alder (#Letr2Jack) has told him, he will continue to live, pray and love until Miss Right walks into his life!
Oluwatobi Gbemisola
@TobiGbemisola
Your Life Coach
Haha, a lot of us can relate to this scenario anyway. I think it has a bit to do with our culture, an average european or american child is likely to have had a boy or girlfriend before sixteen years, our culture encourages girls to be inhibited when it comes to relationships, girls don't wanna make the first move, the guy on the other hand is afraid of rejection if he makes his move, so both parties just stay muted hoping the other will be brave enough to make the first move. -banks
ReplyDeletethanks for your input there Olu, God bless. Hope you enjoyed the read. any criticisms?
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