There are
times when everything looks bleak, dull, uninteresting, tiring, frustrating and
you just want to get out and end it all. There are times when it all looks as
if all hope is lost, all desire to continue snuffed out by the disappointments
of life. When times such as these come, what do you do? Do you continue to
wallow in mud of self pity and drench yourself in the waters of gloom?
Yes, most
times that’s the natural, default way of reacting to situations like these. To
remain in this psychological and emotional state and expect others to
understand us. Well, sorry to say but how can they if they aren’t feeling the
same things? Misery loves company and if misery doesn’t get its company, things
get really bad. It gets worse if we find no one to have around us to comfort us
in times like these. So one good thing is to have a circle of people around
that are there to help us back to our feet at such times.
Besides
that, our perspective of life falls and rest on how we perceive situations
around us. What is focused on in one moment has a large part to play in what
happens in the next moment. Focus determines body physiology, the way we relate
to people, the way people see us and how we react to situations in the
environment. Change on the outside does not come except there is a change from
within. When one focuses on everything that is wrong and could go wrong,
darkness falls but when one switches to seeing everything that’s right, like
the priceless opportunity of being alive, hale and hearty, having a good and
supportive family, loving and caring friends, a steady marriage, career or
academic pursuit, the whole picture comes alive. The light comes on and there
is a visible change of attitude.
When next
you are not feeling too good inside and you would like that to change, all you
have to do is to switch your perception to everything that’s good and worth
being happy about in your life and not too soon from then, you’ll be thankful
than ever.