What are you looking at?

There are times when everything looks bleak, dull, uninteresting, tiring, frustrating and you just want to get out and end it all. There are times when it all looks as if all hope is lost, all desire to continue snuffed out by the disappointments of life. When times such as these come, what do you do? Do you continue to wallow in mud of self pity and drench yourself in the waters of gloom?

Yes, most times that’s the natural, default way of reacting to situations like these. To remain in this psychological and emotional state and expect others to understand us. Well, sorry to say but how can they if they aren’t feeling the same things? Misery loves company and if misery doesn’t get its company, things get really bad. It gets worse if we find no one to have around us to comfort us in times like these. So one good thing is to have a circle of people around that are there to help us back to our feet at such times.

Besides that, our perspective of life falls and rest on how we perceive situations around us. What is focused on in one moment has a large part to play in what happens in the next moment. Focus determines body physiology, the way we relate to people, the way people see us and how we react to situations in the environment. Change on the outside does not come except there is a change from within. When one focuses on everything that is wrong and could go wrong, darkness falls but when one switches to seeing everything that’s right, like the priceless opportunity of being alive, hale and hearty, having a good and supportive family, loving and caring friends, a steady marriage, career or academic pursuit, the whole picture comes alive. The light comes on and there is a visible change of attitude.

When next you are not feeling too good inside and you would like that to change, all you have to do is to switch your perception to everything that’s good and worth being happy about in your life and not too soon from then, you’ll be thankful than ever.

Looking good!

                Everyone wants that occasional compliment from people around. “Hey, you’re looking great, I like your shirt”, “hi there, you are the best dressed I have seen today. Nice shoes”.  There is inner desire to be appreciated and recognised by other people around us. So we try our possible best in using the resources available in the most astonishing of ways. We invest our money to buy these things so as to fulfil that gratification. Well, that is good thinking and action .Keep it up and well done. Your outlook the world matters  a lot .We’ve been told that the way you dress is the way you will be addressed, so it is quite paramount that we look good on the outside.

                But what about the inside? A lot of people walking the streets may look good on the outside and smell all nice and sexy but if you could check their inside, you would be singing “why oh why”. Their lives on the inside is a total contrast to their lives on the outside. They might dress to fool and impress people, but they’re true colours are eventually revealed. They might seem, lovely, gentle and perfect in public places like the Church , place of work, parties but in their personal lives  at home it is a different story.

                This article may be talking to you or someone you know. I did not write this to condemn anyone but to enjoy you to put things in other. There is no need for unnecessary impression management. Come out in your true colours. It is people of this kind that the Lord Jesus called fools and hypocrites (Matt 23). Let your life be clean, nice and healthy both on the inside and outside. Be good to people everywhere. No backstabbing, backbiting, gossiping or slandering. Behaviours such as these have being known to be detrimental to one’s health. Be free and open. Take life and embrace it in its entirety and you’ll come to be showered by so much love.

My favourite tweets of the day

Being unique doesn't make any difference to anyone else. What makes you special is making a difference in someone's life.

Smiling doesn't always mean you're happy. Sometimes, it simply means that you are a strong person.

Sometimes, we spend so much time giving advice to other people that we don't realize we are the ones who need to be advised.

For every wound, there is a scar. For every scar, there is a story. It is a story that proves I survived and grew stronger.

A smile can mean a thousand words, but it can also hide a thousand problems.

Appreciate what you have, who loves you and who cares for you. You'll never know how much they mean to you till the day they are gone.

What you expect to happen is a big part of what the result will be. Think positive.

What happens when he's your Prince Charming, but you're not his Cinderella?

We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.

If you don't do stupid things while you're young, you'll have nothing to smile about when you're old.

Six Step Transformational Conversations

Good day to you friends. As I was going through the internet this morning I stumbled across this post in a blog like mine but with so much cool posts that will change your life. And I decided to import this particular post into my blog for peeps that love to read my posts( thanks for doing that, you are the best!). So please endeavour to ponder on this as it relates to communication. I have discovered that a lot of people speak but few really communicate. Enjoy!
6 steps to transformational conversations:
1. Listen to their passions and ideas. Ask them to tell their story. Listen for achievements and frustrations. Successes illustrate competencies; frustrations reveal unfulfilled passions .
2. Repeat it back. Tell them what you hear but don’t pressure them to agree with your initial impressions. Clarify and embrace, again.
3. Say yes to their hopes. Forget your hopes for them; uncover their hopes for themselves – hopes they don’t yet know theyhave. Your greatest power is helping others find their greatest hopes.
4. Explore next steps. Avoid eatingthe whole elephant; help them take a bite. Leadership is always about next steps, always. You aren’t leading till they can explain next steps .
5. Set the next meeting. Once you find a compelling next step, say,“I’d love to hear how that goes.When can we get together nextweek?”
6. Say, “How can I help?” Open doors and share insights but never do for.
Bonus:
Never let distant uncertainties prevent the pursuit of near certainties.
Culled from http://leadershipfreak.wordpress.com

Living Fully

“A man who dares waste one hour of his life has not discovered the value of life.”- Charles Darwin

These are no truer words from the evolution theorist perhaps the only ones I accept to be so. 24hours of living we are given everyday, but in different ways we spend them. Some days seem to be more productive than some others. It all goes back to how our time has been utilized that day. If we spend the hours in a day putting much effort into achieving the goals we have set for our lives, we can say that day has been fruitful but if we enter a “whim-mode”, we wonder what really happened that day. Time is given to us to manage, we are stewards of it. One day we will to be told to account for how we spent our time on earth. Will you give a full account that you can be proud of when that time comes or just stammer? The same amount of time Donald Trump has is the same the beggar on the roads in New York also has. Therefore as you put yourself at work today, make sure you spend your time well because time spent once cannot be regained. Have a nice time with your time!